Dancing With A Diagnosis

Seems like a theme this week with clients – and also myself in a big way – is about staying in the moment and in particular, looking for the JOY in today.  

I know this may sound trite (like a greeting card, LOL), but let’s look at it in a serious way. (And keep reading, because there’s a story coming). 

How much of our time do we spend running around trying to get everything “handled.”  Running on the adrenaline of the To Do list, knowing that “once I get these things done I can finally relax.”  

(I’m raising my hand here). 

And how often are we so preoccupied with the future… what’s going to happen… what’s not going to happen… that it robs us of being present today?  

(Also raising my hand).  

Bringing yourself back to the present moment is a skill that needs to be cultivated.  I’ve learned that meditation is a great way to develop this mindfulness, but the fastest “shot” for me can be remembering three words.  


And in fact, the more I have practiced it in my life, the stronger the muscle has gotten.  

Here’s the story I promised.  

This week we got shocking and unexpected news of my dad’s health.  Now let me just say that I am incredibly close to my dad, and literally cannot imagine a world without him.  

However, while we’re waiting for more information, a treatment plan, and 2nd and 3rd opinions, I’ve surprised myself with how calm I am genuinely feeling.

I’m just so aware, after 17 years of coaching (and having to “walk my talk,”) that it does no one any good for me to plummet, or start hypothesizing, or move into worst case scenarios.  Especially me.  

Am I scared?  Certainly.  Am I worried?  Without a doubt.  Am I staying in today?  Astonishingly so.  

I found myself telling a client this week that real peace doesn’t come from “arranging everything” so you’ll be safe (good job, money in the bank, great spouse, etc.).  Real peace comes from the following:  

I know I have all of the resources to handle whatever comes my way.  

In other words, one moment at a time, I have the internal resources (fortitude, strength, creativity) and external resources (all the support the world can provide) necessary to handle life on life’s terms.  

This means that I can – for today – take a walk, talk to God, rest, play, enjoy my clients and children, talk a bunch to my dad on the phone… and really experience the joy of that.  

When I have “more information,” I’ll respond accordingly.  

So if you’re running yourself ragged, or if you’re stressed, and preoccupied with your worries, remember – BE. HERE. NOW.  

Don’t miss the joy in front of you.

Barb Wade

Barb is a Speaker, Author, and Coach, who has been on the leading edge of Transformational Coaching for over 15 years. Barb works with high-achievers who, despite external accomplishments, are finding themselves yearning for more freedom, joy, and meaning in their lives. Barb herself knows that “hole” of quiet desperation that can exist even though achievement is high.

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